One of the best part of India (mainly punjab) is their marriges,as in this there are lots of rituals and traditions which indian people follows, mostly the indian weddings goes on 4-5(min) in which all the rituals are performed like mehandi,shgun,sangeet,haldi and at last wedding,but after the wedding there also some rituals performed by groom’s Family which includes welcoming the new bride in their house and some small games are played by groom and the bride.These rituals plays very important role in indian society.In indian weddings, all the family members get together as they manage to get some time from their busy shechdule and busy routine to come and enjoy the wedding.
This is an unofficial engagement ceremony where the groom’s family and friends come give blessings to the bride to be. The origin of this ceremony lies in the arranged marriage norm, where the parents would announce that they are looking for a suitable match for their son or daughter, and once they had found that match, their search had come to an end. Though rings are not exchanged, the couple stand unofficially engaged after this ceremony.when , mate.
Engagement is a significant part of a Punjabi wedding. The bride’s family visits the groom’s family with gifts to confirm the engagement.
The engagement ceremony is an important pre-wedding ritual in Indian cultures where the would-be-bride and the bridegroom-to-be come face to face and are formally betrothed to each other by their families. The Hindu tradition of ‘Vagdanam’ dates back to Vedic ages, and it involves the groom’s family giving their words to the bride’s family that they will accept their daughter and will be responsible for her future wellbeing. It is sort of an exchange of pledges between the families and a chance of getting to know each other’s customs or rituals. In historic times, this ritual involved elaborate announcements in case of Royalties. In Rajput traditions, this betrothal generally takes place soon after the birth of a girl so as to ward of other suitors.
Engagement ceremonies are uniform across most religion and ethnicities across India, differing in nuances and details of the rituals. In some cases, the engagement ceremony marks the formal announcement of the betrothal, while in others it marks the ceremony where the official date of the wedding is determined. In some cultures the engagement precedes the actual wedding by as much as a year whereas in others they are held a day or two prior the actual wedding. Exchanging of rings is not mandatory in all cultures across the country, but it is almost always involves the ritual being the formal announcement of the impending nuptials.
Approximately a week before the wedding the sagai ceremony is held, in which a tikka forehead mark is applied. The bride’s family visits the groom’s family bringing gifts, the paste for the tikka mark and a silver tray with a few grains of rice and saffron in a small silver bowl, 14 dried dates (chuharey) wrapped in silver foil, and a coconut wrapped in a gold leaf. The bride’s father applies the mark to the groom’s forehead, blesses him and gives him some money. of seven dried fruits: almonds, cashew nuts, dried dates, coconut pieces, raisins, dried apricots (Korman) and puffed lotus seeds (phool makhana). applied to her palm for good luck, and the function is sealed with the exchange of rings. Everyone present congratulates the couple by feeding them sweets.
There is a sangeet function hosted by the bride’s family, in which just a few close members of the groom’s family are invited. The bride’s family play the dholak drums and sing songs in which they tease the groom and his family. Nowadays, people hire DJs and have a dance party, followed by dinner. A lady sangeet is held for the bride and her bridesmaids.
The last major function before the wedding is decoration with temporary henna (mehndi) tattoos. Mehndi artists are called to the houses of the boy and girl and apply mehendi to the palms of the female family members, and the hands and feet of the bride. A basket containing Bindi and bangles is handed around so girls can choose those that match the outfit they plan to wear to the wedding. The done, on their hands and feet (most ladies get it done only on their
Common rituals at the bride’s home
Chura: On the wedding day the rituals at the girl’s home begin with the Chura ceremony. The oldest maternal uncle and aunt play an important role in the performance of the ceremony. Chura is basically a set of red and cream ivory bangles that is touched by all present which is gifted by a girl’s mama (mother’s Brother) the girl does not see the chura until she is ready for the marriage. People touch the chura and give their heartiest wishes to the girl for her future married life. Also, they sprinkle flower petals on the bride. After that, the girl’s uncle, aunt,
Vatna/Haldi: Four lamps or diyas are Ubtan is supposed to bring a glow to the bride’s and groom’s body, especially on their faces. This tradition is also known as Shaint in some cultures. After this ritual, the bride and groom are constrained from meeting each other until the wedding ceremony. Mayian: This is the preparation ceremony one day before a Punjabi wedding. This ceremony is an evening festival, at the couple’s parental homes. It consists of many rites, the Batna, Choora, Jaggo fireworks and sometimes the Ladies Sangeet and Mehndi. The mayian happens the night before the wedding and is celebrated according to which part of Punjab the participants are from.
Ghara gharoli: A decorated pitcher of water (ghadoli) is brought for the bride’s bath by the groom’s bhabi (brother’s wife). In the ghara gharoli ritual, the bride’s sibling or sibling’s spouse visits the nearby temple and fills a pitcher with holy water. The girl is then bathed with this holy water. As per the tradition, their wedding dress is presented to them by their respective maternal uncles.
: In this ceremony, the family dances and sings in the beautifully decorated wedding home. Jaggo is celebrated in the last hours of the night. They decorate copper or brass vessel called khadaa with diveh (clay lamps) and fill them with mustard oil and light them. The bride or bridegroom’s maternal aunt (mami) carries it on her head, and another woman will carry a long stick with bells, shaking it. The women will then go into other friends’ and families’ homes; after being welcomed by sweets and drinks, they dance there and move on. It is a loud ceremony, filled with joy, dancing, fireworks, and food. It is also practised in Pakistan.
Rituals at the grooms’s home
Sarbala: A young nephew or cousin dons the same attire as the groom. He is called the sarbala/shabbala (caretaker of the groom) and accompanies him.
Sehra: Like the bride’s home, the Vatna and Ghara Gharoli are followed by the dressing up of the groom in his wedding attire. After the groom has dressed up in his wedding clothes, a puja is performed. gifts and cash to the boy as a token of good luck.
Ghodi Chadna is the final ceremony at the groom’s place. The groom’s sisters and cousins feed and adorn his mare. To ward off the evil eye, people use cash and perform the Varna ritual. The cash is then distributed among the poor. After this the boy climbs the horse and leaves his home for the wedding venue. Varna is a ceremony that is supposed to ward off the evil eye. The groom’s bhabi lines his eyes with surma (kohl).
Milni literally means “introductions”. In a Sikh marriage, Ardas is performed by the person in charge of looking after the Sikh scriptures, followed by the formal introductions of senior men in the families. For example, both eldest chachas (father’s younger brother) will come together and exchange garlands of flowers. In the Milni ceremony, the girl’s relatives give shagun (a token of good luck) to the groom’s close relatives in descending order of age. Cash and clothes are gifted.
Rituals at the marriage venue
Jaimala/Varmala: After Milni, the bride and groom come in the center of the circle where the family is standing, and place a heavily made garland made of flowers- varmala on each other to state, they accept each other and will love and live together with one another. Friends and relatives of the bride and groom indulge in teasing and fun, to celebrate this happy occasion. An auspicious time or muhurat is chosen for the performance of wedding ceremony.
In a Sikh wedding, the bride and groom will walk in tow around the Guru Granth Sahib four times, called laavaan. This signifies they not only accept each other as one soul in two bodies, but also as the Guru as the center of their marriage. Kanyadaan and Phere: The bride’s father puts a ring on the boy’s finger and then he gives his daughter to the boy. This ritual is known as the Kanyadaan. It is after the kanyadaan that the pheras begin. The pheras take place in front of the sacred fire, agni. this the groom applies Sindoor (vermilion) to the girl’s hair
Joota chupai literally means ‘hiding the shoes’. The bride’s sisters indulge in stealing of shoes. It is a fun tradition, in which the girls charge a fee for agreeing to return the shoes. They demand Kalecharis of gold for the bride’s sisters and of silver for her cousins.
Vidaai/Doli: Vidaai marks the departure of the bride from her parental house. As a custom, the bride throws phulian or puffed rice over her head. The ritual conveys her good wishes for her parents. A traditionally sad ritual, here the bride says goodbye to her parents, keeping with tradition the
The mother-in-law has a glass of water in her hand, which she circles 3 times around her bahu and then offers it to her to drink, as a symbol of her acceptance and blessing as her newest daughter.
Rituals observed at the groom’s house
Reception at the boy’s house: The newlyweds are welcomed in a ceremony called the pani bharna. Then the bride must, with her right foot, kick the sarson ka tel (mustard oil) that is put on the sides of the entrance door before she enters the house. Then, along with her husband, she must offer puja in their room. Then they must touch the feet of the elders in a ceremony called matha tekna. The rest of the evening is spent playing traditional games.
Phera Dalna: The newly weds visit the bride’s parents on the day after the wedding. The bride’s brother usually fetches them.